We build trust with others as we get to know them, their virtues and weaknesses. We establish that they are generally good people:
I used to dance salsa before. Still do now tho.
learning to trust your dance partner is much the same as trusting your life partner. But unless they are the same person, you probably don't entrust your safety, or give/accept control of your body over to the latter on a regular basis. Leader's may be afraid to move their partner firmly, while followers might back-lead in a vain attempt to control the action.
When dancing salsa you have to follow the lead of your partner, you cannot assume the next step, except it was a dance routine. One of the rules is to follow the lead. You are meant to trust the lead. Once you start to assume what the person is likely going to do next? You are likely going to miss the step.
I recently felt a friend didn’t trust me.. because I made lots of assumptions, and felt so bad for it.
After reading this I definitely agree that trust is a survival skill even though we never see it that way. It’s trust that guides our decision making and not “instincts”. If you study babies you will quickly notice that they will only allow people they recognize and trust get close to them. We also won’t accept a ride from a random stranger for this particular reason. I love this write up IJ. Daalu
We build trust with others as we get to know them, their virtues and weaknesses. We establish that they are generally good people:
I used to dance salsa before. Still do now tho.
learning to trust your dance partner is much the same as trusting your life partner. But unless they are the same person, you probably don't entrust your safety, or give/accept control of your body over to the latter on a regular basis. Leader's may be afraid to move their partner firmly, while followers might back-lead in a vain attempt to control the action.
When dancing salsa you have to follow the lead of your partner, you cannot assume the next step, except it was a dance routine. One of the rules is to follow the lead. You are meant to trust the lead. Once you start to assume what the person is likely going to do next? You are likely going to miss the step.
I recently felt a friend didn’t trust me.. because I made lots of assumptions, and felt so bad for it.
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Well done!
Love love love the salsa example. So apt. Thanks
After reading this I definitely agree that trust is a survival skill even though we never see it that way. It’s trust that guides our decision making and not “instincts”. If you study babies you will quickly notice that they will only allow people they recognize and trust get close to them. We also won’t accept a ride from a random stranger for this particular reason. I love this write up IJ. Daalu
If you do not trust, you will not evolve.